I specialise in counselling individuals or couples who have experienced bereavement, trauma, or difficulty in any aspect of in pregnancy at any stage. This can include: when an abnormality is diagnosed; loss through miscarriage, termination for abnormality, stillbirth and neonatal death; traumatic delivery; extreme prematurity; and attachment concerns. 

As a midwife with over 35 years experience within the NHS, and a therapist with over 10 years experience in Tunbridge Wells, I provide a unique combination of skills and experience to those seeking support with a range of pregnancy related concerns.


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I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), and have had a Tunbridge Wells based practice since 2008. As well as my advanced diploma training in Humanistic counselling, I have undertaken additional training in couple therapy, attachment, CBT and mindfulness based childbirth and parenting.


Alongside my counselling practice, I currently work within the NHS locally as a specialist bereavement midwife. I regularly teach and train all members of the team within the hospital, as well as medical and midwifery students in London and the South East. I contribute to national guidance relating to best practice in bereavement care through MBRRACE, as well as to their audit and reporting work.

I work closely with our local Tunbridge Wells Sands group, ensuring a link between hospital and community support.


I have also worked as a specialist screening midwife locally, and fetal medicine midwife in London. My midwifery and nursing training were in London teaching hospitals. My interest in parents’ experience of abnormality and loss in pregnancy began while working in the fetal medicine unit at Kings College Hospital, where I decided to begin to train in counselling in order to better support parents.

I work within the BACP ethical framework and am covered by professional indemnity insurance. I am committed to continued professional development to increase my knowledge and skills, and have regular supervision.  


“Its difficult to put into words quite how (or how much) Ruth has helped me. She is calm, wise and incredibly caring – all qualities which make her a very special person and a fantastic bereavement counsellor; I would recommend her in a heartbeat.”
– Mother of two whose first baby was born extremely prematurely and died shortly after birth

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